Beneath the ridiculousness, the annoying, the dishonesty, the needy, the obnoxious, the whiny, or whatever undesirable or compulsive behaviors often lies need. Just before 5am Kyle asked me for spicy potato chips. Then around 6am he wanted boiled eggs. Just now it changed again, and he’s asking me stuff he knows the answer to for no reason, but the fact that he was talking to me way too early and asking for dumb stuff just alerted me that he’s hungry. I could’ve gotten lost in the ridiculousness and responded in anger, but I remembered the last time this happened, he was just thirsty. Maybe he didn’t know how to just say I’m hungry, my stomach hurts, or I’m so thirsty.
Sometimes grown folks have underlying issues they don’t know how to express as well. People act out. And because many of us are afraid to delve into the psyche, get the counseling, address the real traumas in our lives, gave the truth, we lack the specific intelligence required to relay these issues and surrounding feelings to ourselves and others. So, the a-hole who won’t leave you alone, the bully who keeps screwing with you, the husband or wife who won’t stop cheating on you, the friends who can’t support you through their envy, the parents who didn’t hug you, and so on, have deep-seated issues they haven’t addressed, and you can either acknowledge that and carry on with your life, or try to help them figure it out so you can continue to deal with them but with a better relationship. And breathe. But they look at me funny because I’m always ready to go to the couch, or send a kid. Please. I want answers. Only a fool sits in the darkness complaining about how dark it is when the light is just within reach.
From the Mind of:
Tonya D. Floyd, Author/Host
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