Starting stuff is what I do. So, you know a man can almost certainly get to a woman by seducing her mind long before ever touching her body, right? Well, some men are also like that. I say some (PC), because I haven’t seduced them all mentally. But let’s stick to the point; follow me on this. Men are visual creatures, and they are inundated with visual images all day every day through social media, in the streets, at work, hopefully at home–basically everywhere. So they’re easily distracted by these things regardless. This is why we really can’t blame them for looking. It’s his woman’s job to make sure he’s constantly distracted by and looking for visuals of her, by the way. But it’s another thing altogether for a man to be mentally distracted by a woman. That there is the stuff that can either cause problems in a relationship, or be the beginning of something wonderful if he’s not in a relationship.
Oftentimes we women neglect certain parts of the man’s mental, leaving him vulnerable to the wiles or even unintentional seductions of other women. I mean, some of us just have a natural magnetism that draws men to us, makes them say things, expecting nothing special to happen, and then a light shines down upon us and we hear them in a way no other woman has heard, we engage them by replying appropriately, and we just pull them right into our energy, all without trying to do anything special at all. It’s a gift, and a curse. Because while we are simply being ourselves, and he is simply making conversation, or we just happen to be in the same space, a connection is formed. I’m in his mind now, and in spaces you have left unattended. I’m not saying it’s your fault, per se. But a lot of times we women allow space to grow between our men and us because we don’t share their interests or make a significant effort to stay friendly. And by that I mean like friends, pals, besties, the one I share my goofy down time with, go on capers with, learn new things with, show cool things I find, and so on. Sometimes we stop playing and get too serious, angry, tired or whatever. So a hole is created, and since timing is everything, he may meet someone like me on a day he needs…something.
I thought about this topic after I spoke with a good male friend of mine this week. Funny, his wife will never understand that we have never touched, simply because I’ve touched him in mental places she doesn’t frequent. I’m not saying she can’t reach them; I’m not saying she chooses not to; I’m simply saying we have connection which surpasses the physical, and that is a dangerous liaison for any married man. Being the responsible person I am, I choose to limit communications and interactions with the married kind, no matter how much I care. The wives, they, just, never mind. It can never end well for some parties involved. In all honesty, if I were the wife, I would be working on my own connections with my man, because I believe with everything in me that he should be my best friend, and I should be his. Otherwise, I’m probably with the wrong guy, and his mental is most likely not with me in the places that matter most to him. But that’s just me.
From the Mind of:
Tonya D. Floyd, Author
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