A word for those who say they want to be in a relationship: The problem is you want to be served. You’re looking for refreshment after all your trials and trauma. You wanna live out the rest of your days in peace and travel. But you’re not looking to serve. And you just gotta be willing to do that in various ways–daily, consistently, indefinitely. Basically, you’re selfish and you need to heal. But you can probably get you a temporary situation though. Lots of rebounds out here looking for a soft spot to land. I can’t even count how many couples I’ve known to complain about each other for years–usually husband’s claiming they can’t get what they want from their wives. I mean, she only wanted to GET married. Mission accomplished. Boom! Make your best move dawg. 🤣 You wanted comfort and convenience. Well, convenience costs.
The common theme amongst all of these tragedies is he knew she wasn’t a giver, or a caretaker, or even a good partner, and he wasn’t even looking for that. It was just the logical progression of their relationship, and she was the best option at that time. Or she had some money and he wanted to relax some. He knew that broad wasn’t cooking nothing, cleaning nothing, nor throwing herself into motherhood without him agreeing to get up with the kid in the middle of the night and be fully engaged forever, like that was the price of her giving him offspring. And it was. These are also the women who demand support when you break up, call you for EVERYTHING when you’re trying to begin again with some lady you actually like, and threaten to never let you see your kids unless you do what she wants. But y’all love to choose em though. Like bugs to the blue porch light. Smh men are so impulsive. We often think because they’re not emotional decision-makers, they can be trusted to make decisions. But no. Not really.
That was a lot. But I have names and receipts. Sometimes I’d listen and wonder if it was just that he didn’t want to be alone so much, or if he felt pressured to do what his “successful” friends were doing, or if he needed a cosigner on a house or whatever. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 It occurred to me that “it is not good for man to dwell alone,” like the Bible says. Then I began to suspect that men just have ideas for what they want and when, then they put it together with the pieces available because they want it NOW. They’re still complaining, but not to me. I refuse now, because ew. It’s messy and I can’t get those moments back if I listen to you whine about how you ruined your own life with one dumb choice. Dude, it was so obvious…
Sometimes it’s a woman who married the man who’s coming home at the same time every day, doing predictable stuff with the fellas at the house, and doing all the household husband things. But he’s not going out of his way to make her feel special or loved or wanted; he thinks the predictable stuff says all that and she should be quiet, and not ask for anything. “I provide. What else could you possibly need?” He married you because he knew you’d take care of him well, like his mother, or a maid. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
I hate all of this. This is dumb. I don’t want any of it on me. SMH
From the Mind of Tonya D Floyd
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