Allow me to present to some and introduce to others: Tonya Dwan Floyd, Author/Blogger/Philosopher/Relationship Explorer, at your service. Basically all that boils down to I’m a heavy thinker, and a great listener, with skill in wielding the English language as a weapon, or composing written pieces like elaborate musical numbers with dancing, to affect people. I make words move, touch, inspire, envelop my reader while drawing pictures in your mind to help you follow along.
It’s a passion of mine to help people find new perspective so they can communicate better, understand more deeply, connect more often. I’m a hopeless romantic. What can I say? I love love, and I hope more of us find the kind that lasts, the kind that takes on a life of its own and fills us. None of us was meant to be alone in my opinion. But before we find love we must find ourselves.
Whenever I write, whether it’s a poem or a novel or a book of random thoughts, I put myself in the material, feel it, live it, or re-live it in some cases, so it’s a more authentic experience. I need my reader to become part of the story, to feel it. And I’m very good at pulling you in. My choice of material in almost every case is interpersonal communication. Dealing with other people in various relationship settings can be tough.
I talk a lot about emotions, and sometimes I share personal experiences and lessons learned, because I need my reader to believe me. I need you to know I’m not pulling stuff out of the air. I need you to know I’m not bullshitting you or candy-coating any of the stuff life dishes out, because life has kicked my ass too. This is important for our relationship if you’re ever going to listen to me and use anything I offer you.
When I’m not writing a book of some kind, every day, several times a day as sort of a compulsion, I look at a little box on social media that asks what’s on my mind. I type random things I saw, discussed, heard, remembered, or compiled from people who asked me to share thoughts on their behalf. I do it to clear out some of the clutter in my head, because some nights I can’t sleep, and something will tell me, Wake up. Somebody needs to hear this right now. I do it to stay engaged with those I want to be my audience, and to show different sides of my personality. I’m a really cool person, with facets. Hey, nothing stiff here. I’m fully submerged in this life thing.
Many times I’ll post something and say I represent an elite group of women, which I do. I know some folks think they know me, and suspect trouble on the home front when I do that, but I have a few friends who are intelligent, independent, loving, giving, responsible, attractive and fun–but sometimes dating sucks for us. So, we talk about it. And sometimes I write about what we discussed, seeking other women with similar issues, in an attempt to show solidarity and support.
How often do you find something on the internet that inspired you or spoke to your heart or something, and you shared it because you knew somebody could appreciate it? I do that all day every day. As women, I believe we need that extra support FROM OTHER WOMEN.
I also believe many of us live with secrets that are killing us slowly, or not so slowly. I believe the most subtle hugs come from poetry, and the not-so-subtle high-5s come from comedy. I flood my timeline with both. You may not be able to say it, but dammit I know how. I’ll say it for us both. You can sit back and grin about it, or like it. It was me. I said it. Your secret is safe with me. We need that sometimes too.
It’s kind of funny, and kind of annoying how often somebody sends me a message and either asks if I’m a writer, or tells me I’m telling too much of my business on social media. Well, you haven’t been paying attention to what I’m saying because you’re looking too hard at what I’m NOT saying. You have no idea how many times a day I post things and I’ll tell somebody, “Watch me start some shit on the internet.” I’m doing all right from the looks of it, cause folks will scroll through several minutes of feed daily to find my “personal” posts in secret, not liking or commenting but feeling concern for me. I’m still working on a solution for this whole I’M A WRITER campaign, cause I thought I was doing a good job of showing that, and saying that, and posting books for you to buy, that I wrote.
Oh, and I even started separate Facebook pages for my books and for my talk show Signature Moves, where I discuss relationship issues and solutions to common communication problems. It’s all right there on my website (www.tonyadfloyd.com), and on my blog. And all my social media accounts link to each other somehow. My bad. Obviously I’m not selling this well enough. But carry on with the minding of my business, if that’s actually my business.
I can’t get mad, though, cause if people spent more time on their inner issues, their relationships and their business ventures, I would never have customers or an audience, so follow me all day every day, but BUY THE BOOKS I WROTE. There are 8 of them out there for you to get deep into my psyche and read between those lines to find my inner turmoil and relationship problems. I lay it all down between those pages. Buy all 8! Please and thank you.
From the Mind of:
Tonya D Floyd, Author