Life would be more peaceful for some of us if we weren’t so concerned with labels and changing what is not within our power to change. We say we accept or understand, but turn right around and lead a crusade against types of people, behaviors, foods even. We label others all the time. This week it’s the debate about what a sports figure said. Is he a thug or a nigga or something else? He’s a grown man who said what he felt on camera. Why does he have to be spokesman for any category? Next. How many ads do I scroll past with GMO hate or vegan love? Pass. I eat what I like. If it starts to kill me noticeably, I’ll eat it less. Next.
We wonder why we stay with that person who just won’t “do right.” You got with them, so there was something there. If you married them, you got what you liked or wanted, so enjoy the presentation of a living motion picture before you. Some new one every day that you may have thought was cute once. I have a friend who always wants to know if he still wants to be married when she irritates him. I always wanna know why he asks me when I say the same thing: “Dude, you like it. She likes it. Men always complain about how women are, but you keep choosing girls to share your life with, so you must like it.” Same for women. If you walk out of that, you’ll just walk into another similar situation, because the constant is you. You like what you like. Deal with each situation as a singular one, according to how you feel that day, and stop making each one “the last straw.” Be quiet more. People don’t know how to respond to that, so they usually become more amenable, trying to reach you. Winning.
I have found that the secret to peaceful living for me is to laugh when it’s funny, walk away when I’m too angry, speak calmly when I need to, and do what I feel without speaking when I need their attention. Can’t make them do a thing. If I feel like it’s them or me, I choose me, and I live with my choice. I refuse to let people, propaganda, social media, or anybody else shape how I feel about anything. I decide how I feel. It’s mine. My conscience does the rest for me. It tells me when I’m wrong, sorry, ashamed, and when I need to ask forgiveness. I can’t follow new rules. I think they’re stupid more often than not.
Peace. It’s very personal. And it’s priceless when achieved. You’ll never wanna go back to that other way once you’ve tasted it, so you avoid situations that threaten it. No, you can’t make the people in your life stay on your program, but you can adjust to ensure you have what you need. You are “the one.” Get out of the matrix.
From the Mind of: Tonya D. Floyd
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